I saw some sad, sad choices being made when I attended an early morning showing of The Dark Knight Rises. First, I know Batman is super cool and kids love Batman, but common sense dictates (especially if you saw The Dark Knight) that this is a violent movie. The fact that I saw countless children, and yes, I'm talking ages 6 and under, at this movie is entirely inappropriate. I know your Batman loving 5-year-old really wants to see Batman, but as a parent you have to tell them no. If this was a movie appropriate for a child that age, it would be rated G. Please remember that.
Also, and this terribly disturbed me, a man and a woman walked in with their infant. First, this was an IMAX showing, which is like sitting with a live band right next to your ear for the 2 hours and 45 minutes this movie is on. Understanding the sight and hearing developments an infant is enduring, the loud BOOMS and bright flashes of light on the movie screen are NOT good for an infant. Plus, how can you properly care for your child when you're engrossed in, what was, an awesome movie? Leave your child at home. If you can't get a sitter, wait a few more days to see the movie. You made the choice to have a child, and now that child's needs come before your desires to see a movie the day it comes out.
Temper Tantrums. It's inevitable. But, what I have witnessed all summer long is parents who have been giving in to tantrums. I know they're exhausting, embarrassing, and wholly inconvenient, but, strong discipline is essential to eliminating these episodes. So, getting your kid that toy just to shut them up may work for the time being, so you can get your shopping done, but it only teaches them that tantrums work. Really, what needs to happen is that when a tantrum occurs, you leave the store, teaching your child that it doesn't work and that they need to use their words to explain what they want and accept the answer of no. It's a long hard road, but, the benefits outweigh what you'll spend in buying your child everything they demand and raising an obnoxious child, who's used to getting everything they want. If that's too much, don't bring your kids shopping. Again, your child's needs come first. If you can't arrange for someone to watch your child while you shop, wait to shop. Or, teach them how to behave in public. Either is good.
Swearing in front of your kid. As an avid curser, I understand that slips happen. Sometimes, that one time you slipped was enough to teach your kid a new word. The problem occurs when people laugh at the kid who's cursing because we find it amusing in their sweet, higher pitched voices. That only teaches children that they're gaining your positive attention and they'll keep doing it. The best choice here, if your child repeats your slip, is to be upfront with your kid. Explain that the word is not nice and it wasn't right of you to use it and apologize to your child for saying it. You'd be amazed at how well this explanation works with kids both young and older. For those who do it all the time, please stop. Your 3-year-old doesn't need to hear about the asshole you work with, while you're on the phone with whomever in the checkout line. Again, you made the choice to have a child. Now you have to make changes to your vocabulary around that child.
Being rude to store employees in front of your child. I remember, in my bookstore days, a woman who came into the store with her 7 or 8-year-old to return a book. The receipt was well past the 90 days and we couldn't provide the return. The woman went from kind to evil demon spawn in less than a second. While her child stared up at us, she jumped right into calling me stupid for working in a retail establishment and challenged my goals in life for working there (even though by that point I held a masters degree and was just struggling to find work in my field, not that she cared to know), and then argued with me about how I could do the return, I just wouldn't. When I showed her both the part on the receipt and the sign above my head that explained the policy, she looked to her son, who watched us the whole time, and asked him if he agreed that I was stupid for not just doing the return and he, of course, agreed with his mom and looked me in the eyes and told me I was stupid. So, she taught him 1) it's okay to demean employees, 2) that the rules don't apply to you, 3) name calling is acceptable amongst adults. It's occasions like this where I wish having children involved an application process.
Suffice it to say, I'm a little frustrated. I wish parents would show better judgement and remember that having children isn't something you just do, it's a life change and a choice.